Expensive Dave,
My husband and I stay in India. I’m from the States, and he was born right here. On the subject of our funds, I handle our American investments, and he manages our Indian investments. Each month, we sit down with spreadsheets and go over our funds. I belief him utterly, however I’d like to higher perceive our investments right here and the way they work. Ought to I simply defer to his judgment, or ought to I be taught to know issues just a little higher?
Anna

Expensive Anna,
I all the time inform people to verify they utterly perceive their investments and the way they work. So, there’s completely nothing incorrect with studying extra in regards to the aspect of your investments he manages.

I realized a very long time in the past that whenever you’re married and it comes to creating choices, you need to use all your mind. Which means each of you. Two heads are higher than one, proper? Again once I made all my errors with cash and we went broke, I didn’t hearken to anybody about something. I believed I knew all of it. We had investments and owned items of property my spouse by no means knew about or laid eyes on.

When it got here to our funds, she all the time trusted me and informed me to do what I believed was greatest. Properly, it seems, I used to be an fool. If I’d had an oz. of sense or humility again then, I’d have gone to her with my all my vivid concepts. Realizing her ideas or listening to her say, “I don’t find out about that, honey. I’ve received a nasty feeling about it” may’ve saved us quite a lot of ache and heartache — if I’d listened. However now, I perceive like by no means earlier than the that means of Proverbs 31:10-12. “Who can discover a virtuous spouse? For her value is above rubies. The guts of her husband safely trusts her; so he could have no lack of acquire” (NKJV).  

I’m certain your husband is lot smarter about issues than I used to be.  And he’s clearly open to speaking with you about all this and displaying you issues. That’s a extremely good signal. But when I had been him, and one thing had been to occur, I’d need you to know every part. I’d need you to know precisely what you’ve gotten occurring and the way it all works.

Nice query, Anna!
— Dave